WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.124 --> 00:00:01.842 line:15% As a trans girl, I have found 2 00:00:01.842 --> 00:00:03.501 line:15% that dating can be difficult. 3 00:00:03.501 --> 00:00:05.607 So to all of you straight guys out there, 4 00:00:05.607 --> 00:00:09.734 here are a few things that you should know. 5 00:00:09.734 --> 00:00:11.382 You don't have to be afraid to make physical 6 00:00:11.382 --> 00:00:13.228 contact with trans girls. 7 00:00:13.228 --> 00:00:14.708 We like hugs too. 8 00:00:14.708 --> 00:00:17.197 And we don't have cooties, okay? 9 00:00:17.197 --> 00:00:19.715 Often times, boys will hug my friends 10 00:00:19.715 --> 00:00:21.384 and then they'll kind of just skip over me 11 00:00:21.384 --> 00:00:24.344 and I'm like, why are you doing that, I'm a girl too 12 00:00:24.344 --> 00:00:26.462 and just treat me normally. 13 00:00:26.462 --> 00:00:29.351 Trans girls are here, we exist, 14 00:00:29.351 --> 00:00:32.369 so you don't have to ignore us as friends or as girlfriends. 15 00:00:32.369 --> 00:00:35.118 Sometimes guys ignore me and it makes me feel 16 00:00:35.118 --> 00:00:36.958 like I'm different, but really I'm just 17 00:00:36.958 --> 00:00:38.862 like any other girl. 18 00:00:38.862 --> 00:00:41.066 It's totally acceptable to ask questions. 19 00:00:41.066 --> 00:00:43.220 Just make sure that they are well-thought out 20 00:00:43.220 --> 00:00:45.455 and that they come from a place of love. 21 00:00:45.455 --> 00:00:47.700 However, if you think you could just Google 22 00:00:47.700 --> 00:00:49.334 it, then do so. 23 00:00:49.334 --> 00:00:50.799 It shows dedication if you take 24 00:00:50.799 --> 00:00:53.372 the time to educate yourself and look things up. 25 00:00:53.372 --> 00:00:54.827 One of the most annoying questions 26 00:00:54.827 --> 00:00:57.433 that people ask me is if I chose 27 00:00:57.433 --> 00:00:59.215 to be transgender and be a girl. 28 00:00:59.215 --> 00:01:02.650 And no, it wasn't a choice, I was just born this way. 29 00:01:02.650 --> 00:01:05.831 Often times, guys are afraid of what their friends think 30 00:01:05.831 --> 00:01:08.243 and it's like no, who cares what your friends think? 31 00:01:08.243 --> 00:01:10.498 If you're attracted to me or any other trans girl, 32 00:01:10.498 --> 00:01:12.693 then pursue that relationship. 33 00:01:12.693 --> 00:01:15.577 Being trans doesn't dictate your sexuality. 34 00:01:15.577 --> 00:01:17.578 Transgender people can be straight, 35 00:01:17.578 --> 00:01:20.671 gay, bisexual, or any color of the rainbow. 36 00:01:20.671 --> 00:01:23.006 I'm still exploring my sexuality 37 00:01:23.006 --> 00:01:25.516 and I'm not sure what label I identify 38 00:01:25.516 --> 00:01:27.943 as, but I would just say that I love people 39 00:01:27.943 --> 00:01:30.572 for who they are on the inside. 40 00:01:30.572 --> 00:01:33.694 Trans girls are not here to be your experiment. 41 00:01:33.694 --> 00:01:35.067 If you're interested in a trans girl, 42 00:01:35.067 --> 00:01:36.541 then make sure you are pursuing 43 00:01:36.541 --> 00:01:39.216 a relationship for the right reasons. 44 00:01:39.216 --> 00:01:41.738 Trans girls are just like any other girls. 45 00:01:41.738 --> 00:01:43.711 We don't want to be defined by the label 46 00:01:43.711 --> 00:01:46.566 of being trans because that's not who we are. 47 00:01:46.566 --> 00:01:48.306 There is so much more to our characters 48 00:01:48.306 --> 00:01:51.249 and we want you to see that and love us for it. 49 00:01:51.249 --> 00:01:53.048 When being with a trans girl, it's not 50 00:01:53.048 --> 00:01:55.268 about what's between her legs, but rather 51 00:01:55.268 --> 00:01:57.791 what's between her ears and in her heart. 52 00:01:57.791 --> 00:02:01.541 So realize that and accept us for who we are.